Art of Change...Change Is Difficult To Define

The art of change, we either have to learn to adapt to change or become stagnant in our life. While changing may be difficult in some areas of our life in others it will be the best thing that has happened to you. At Everyday Wisdom, we believe there are two primary components to achieving a successful life. They are setting goals and solving life's problems they go hand in hand with the art of change. We believe the article written by Kennrick Cleavland will be a benefit to those who read it.

The Art Of Change
by Kenrick Cleveland

'Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.' --Albert Einstein

Change is difficult to define. There are some changes that seem to take *forever*. . .like weight loss, or selling a house in the current market. Other changes can happen in the blink of an eye and irreversibly. . . death, for example. A lot of people shun change, they do their best to hold on to the past, to hold on what's comfortable. I had a grandmother who never appeared to change (aside from shrinking and wrinkling up a little). Her hair and clothes and friends and house and church were all exactly the same year after year. Holding on has the illusion of keeping us more secure, but it can also prevent us from growing.

The world around us is constantly changing. The weather changes, time changes, seasons change. There is absolutely nothing we can do to hold back and working against it is incredibly detrimental to our growth.

Now in my late forties, I am making personal and professional changes myself. These changes are uncomfortable and scary, but thrilling at the same time. I am facing this fear and excitement eagerly. Growth comes from change and I'm all about growth.

Taking inventory is always a good first step in determining what needs to change in our lives. Internal change, as oppose to external change, is, to a degree, something we control. When to leave an unhappy situation, when to attempt a business of your own, when to start a family. . .these are all things that can happen at unexpected times without a predictable timetable, and understanding how to manage our fears about change is the key to fulfillment.

If you're one of the many people with the fear of change, this is for you, a new start, a chance to stop robbing yourself of the opportunities available to you with a little risk.

The first thing to realize is that your resistance to change is emotional. And emotional resistance is really difficult to overcome. It can be done. Lately I've been thinking a lot about emotions and how each and every emotion we have is a choice. This has really struck a chord in me and given me a new found sense of freedom over what I choose to feel.

Sometimes resistance to change is a general weariness, what the French call ennui. If there is no strong desire, then this resistance will not be moved beyond. A friend told me the other day, 'I really wish I wanted to quit smoking'. Will this person make that change? Nope. Not a chance. The big factor here is motivation. There's a moving away from feeling for some people, moving away from fear of losing something valuable in order to change, like the alcoholic who hits bottom and realizes what they will lose as a result of their behavior. Others simply fear the unknown, all the possible outcomes of making changes. These are both valid but regrets are seldom about things we have tried, and often about the things we were too afraid to try.

Part of what I am changing has to do with really exciting developments soon to come in what I am offering at Max Persuasion. Please stay tuned for new classes, new opportunities to expand your persuasion and your life

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