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Sometimes it's your doctor who lends a helping hand... if you're lucky.

I was reading in today's Washington Post, an article by Marc Siegel. The title was "Putting Extra 'Care' Into Health Care." There was this subtitle - "Patients Cherish Physicians Who Listen Closely and Treat Them With a Personal Touch."

The article caused me to think back to the doctors I've had and I realized just how lucky I had been. I have Crohn's Disease and have had bypass surgery. I've had quite a few doctors. All but one did a good job of listening to me.

That doesn't always happen in the medical profession. In the Washington Post article, I noticed a sentence that included: "In an age of impersonal medicine, marked by bottom-line thinking and rushed doctor-patient interactions..." Doesn't that description accurately describe today's medical profession?

So it's important to choose a doctor who can listen. But there was something else mentioned in the article that caught my eye. Later in the article, a woman's situation with her doctor was described. This lady was diagnosed by her doctor as having severe pain casued by "a bacteria that thrives in stress-induced stomach acid and can cause ulcers."

This was a good doctor. He didn't just prescribe antibotics. He listened to the woman talk about coming home from work crying because of the stress of her job. He went on to talk to her about stress relieving techniques.

That's admirable. Many doctors would prescibe medication and leave it at that. Medication isn't always the best course of action. Of course, if it's a situation where there isn't much choice, well, that's different.

I feel this doctor could have gone further. He could have talked to this lady about leaving her job. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt as his patient was new to her job. That could very well be why the doctor didn't mention it. At least the article didn't say he mentioned it.

Well, life leaves clues. Coming home from a job crying is a major clue. Getting ulcers is a major clue. Staying at the job doesn't seem, to me, like a good idea.

What's a person to do? In the case of this woman I wonder how she made her decision to take this particular job in the first place. Had she asked the right questions during the interview? It doesn't appear she did. Her process of making decisions is what got her into this predicament. Of course, if she was desperate for the job and this was the only job she could get, maybe that would make a difference. But, for most people, this isn't the case.


Our health is so important to achieving a better life. We all need some good strategies to pick good doctors. Doctors who care enough to listen. We have a page on www.everyday-wisdom about choosing a doctor. To read it, click here.

Since I've been talking about stress and it's effects, here are some related articles from our site.

What exactly is stress?
Tips For Dealing With Stress.
How Stress Affects Memory.
Stress Coping Strategies For The Elderly.

And... we also have an article about decision making. To read it, click here.

As I've said in other places on our website, my father has a saying that goes like this - "It's the mistakes you don't make that get you ahead." That's a strange way to look at life, but in many ways it's true. You can make a mistake so big, it takes forever to recover.

For some people, in some cases, they never recover. The lady in this article was lucky. She had a good doctor willing to take the time to give additional advice. Most people are not going to be this lucky. Don't let that be you. We have a lot of information on this website and we're adding more every week.

Our articles can get you started thinking in the right way to achieve a better life. Of course you can't rely only on this site. Obviously, if you have a medical condition, our website can't take the place of seeing a doctor. In every case, our site should be a starting place to do your due diligence. Talk to other people, look at other websites, see a consultant, and talk to friends or family. The key is to get as much relavent information as you can so you can to make better decisions.

I’ll see you in the next post of A Better Life.

Ed Kalski


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